Chromosome 18 Gene Dosage Map – Thank You

June 17 2025

This is the coolest, most useful tool! Thank you to The Chromosome 18 Research Center at UT Health San Antonio. I’ve been on a 2 year journey so far in trying to achieve a better quality of life for Lillian. Her quality of life has tanked to non-existent over the past few years.

(2014 photo of Lillian)

FINALLY getting to some answers and this gene mapping tool (for those of us enrolled in the C18 study) is incredibly valuable. It is a full time job keeping track of test results and staying on top of doctors and specialists to review results, and get referrals. Then referrals are denied. More phone calls, more work.

Recently, Lillian’s general practitioner referred Lillian to a hematologist for an iron infusion and to investigate why she’s anemic. They rejected it, indicating to try oral iron first. People. We are not idiots. Do they not think people would try the easiest option before the one that’ll be a headache and more work. Hematologist office wouldn’t talk to me about it. So I filed a complaint with Renown (did you know you could do that – you can!). Don’t take no for an answer when you know that you are correct.

I got a call today and they are going to have it reviewed again once the GP sends another referral indicating she has already tried the oral (she couldn’t tolerate it) and that she’s got a rare genetic condition and the anemia needs to be investigated further. GP will refer for iron infusion so we don’t have to wait.

Incidentally, they also denied my referral as I need my iron levels monitored so I don’t spiral down like has happened two times now. I also filed a complaint for myself and that’s being sent back with additional information. My dudes, I just need monitored.

All of this is so much damn work. I’m trying to get as much done as possible before fall semester begins. Hadn’t planned on sharing all of that. But, it feels good to share it!

2025 Chromosome 18 Conference – Niagara Falls – Coming Soon


(Team TLC – 2013 C18 Conference in Savannah, Georgia)

So here’s some *fun* news. Team TLC will not have access to the two funding sources we have accessed in the past to be able to attend the yearly C18 Family Conference. Attending the conference typically cost between $3k-$5k. It’s at Niagara Falls this summer so airfare is going to be crazy.

I’ve started a substack account. It’s free to subscribe, or you can pledge an amount. I’ll be sharing poetry, UNR updates, my other writings, and other stuff. I don’t post on here as much.
Lillian will have some ideas, too. Maybe the on demand poetry she did a few years ago??

Thanks to everyone who has supported and assisted Team TLC throughout the years. (Conference photo from 2013 and Thanksgiving 2024)


(Team TLC – November 2024)

Ultrasound to Locate Veins – Cool

November 15 2024

It’s a vein! What a blessing that they can use an ultrasound to find veins! No more traumatic experiences for Lillian. Three hours later and we were successfully outta there! Fingers and toes crossed that this CT with contrast gives us answers to the stomach and lower abdomen pain. 🙌🙌🙌

2024 Chromosome 18 Conference – Charlotte, North Carolina

July 6 2024

3:00 am, home to the airport, then to Phoenix, now to Charlotte. Imma need a massage when we arrive. 🤪

July 6 2024

After a most unfun travel experiences we finally arrived at 4:30 pm EST yesterday. With sweat dripping down my back waiting for the hotel shuttle at the airport, a different hotel shuttle gave us a lift, as ours seemed to be invisible. 😝 That man was a savior, after having left this heat and humidity in 1990, I cannot do it anymore. Feels like I’m suffocating. 🥵

At the Reno airport as we were headed through pre-check, it was discovered that I put Thomas’s year of birth for Lillian’s on her reservation. Damn. 🤪 Had to go back to ticketing to get that fixed. Both of our flights left and arrived on time. So that was great! 🎉

The friends are reunited!! Love these ladies!!

Thomas and I had a delicious, filling dinner after having gone all day with no meals.
After that the hugs, smiles, and laughter began, and continued until 10:30. Ready for another fun, hug-filled day!! ❤️❤️❤️

July 7 2024

Day 1: More conversations, more fun, more laughter, more joy, more happiness. ❤️

Plus, a performance by the Bouncing Bulldogs Jump Rope Team. 🙌

July 8 2024

Day 2: Good times! 🎉💖🎉

July 9 2024

Day 3 began with fire alarms and a full hotel evacuation. I had to go retrieve Lillian from the room, exiting with her being barefoot in her nightgown. 😱

Then parent panel, where sibs got to ask questions of a few of us parents. Later was ladies night and a luau for the self-advocates.

Fun times!! 🎉🎉🎉


July 10 2024

Day 5: Sibling and self-advocate panel, group photos, and Starfish Dinner & Dance. 🎉❤️🎉

Rick Guidotti’s of Positive Exposure’s photos:

 

 

Be Seen and Be Heard – Go Lillian

April 13 2024

I need to turn the spotlight on Lillian Darnell for a moment, as I am super proud of her.

She had a nurse appointment for a shot on Thursday. The nurse asked Lillian if she would get onto the exam table. Lillian began to tell her that she needed the step pulled out. Nurse didn’t wait for Lillian to get out what she needed to say, assumed she didn’t want to get up there, saying, “Oh, you don’t want to get up there? That’s fine.”

Lillian raised her irritated voice, telling the nurse that’s not what she said, and pointed at the pull out step, saying again that she needed it to get up there.

I kept my mouth shut, letting her set fire to the air in that exam room. You go Lillian. You go! Be seen, be heard. (Also, we LOVE nurses. They are amazing!)

**For those who don’t know, Lillian is my 22-year-old daughter. She has a chromosome deletion (18p-), autism, anxiety, and mild intellectual disability. She has articulation difficulties and a stutter, making her difficult to understand. The past few years I have been guiding her to correct others when they misunderstand her.**

 

Monday Night Poetry – Mermaids of the Sea – Camilla’s Birthday

February 27 2024

My poetry friends sang me Happy Birthday last night, and treated me like a Queen. ❤️❤️❤️ Full house last night, with wonderful poetry shared.

Lillian wrote a poem for me; which I shared. It was a hit! (Lillian is my 22 year old special needs daughter) She totally understood the assignment. 😁

The mermaids of the sea bow down
To the queen of the oceans
Bravely dancing

In the seas of love and the heart of kindness
Dances the braveness of the mermaid
Of my heart of friendliness

Swimming into the dancing sea of stars
The mermaid dances to the song
Of life bravely and free
To the mermaids of sea
Lillian Darnell – 2024

I wrote a poem titled, “Me”. I’ll share that one in a separate post.

She Did It! Another One Off the List – Go Lillian

February 15 2024

Finally getting the endoscopy done! The nurses here are amazing. They used an ultrasound to find a good vein so Lillian Darnell didn’t get poked multiple times. Yay Lillian!!! And thank you clonazepam for helping Lillian not be anxious!! 🤣🤣🤣

**And if you’re that lady who sent me an email the last time I posted about Lillian conquering her fears, please Go Fuck Yourself! You don’t know me, or my kids. If you did, you would not have sent me a message that I use my kid for clicks and to get attention. Plus, Lillian is a woman. She is 22 years old! Unsubscribe from my blog and go away.**