It’s a vein! What a blessing that they can use an ultrasound to find veins! No more traumatic experiences for Lillian. Three hours later and we were successfully outta there! Fingers and toes crossed that this CT with contrast gives us answers to the stomach and lower abdomen pain. 🙌🙌🙌
Tomorrow is the big 23 for Lillian Darnell!!! Damn! It just hit me typing that. I’ll post more tomorrow. For now, this is just to say that Lillian wants to continue the birthday tradition of a facebook live for family and friends near and far. Please join us tomorrow, September 14th, at 4:00pm PST.
September 14 2024
In honor of Lillian’s 23rd birthday. Happy Birthday to Fairy Queen Lillian! 🎉❤️🎉 We’ll be live on my Facebook at 4:00 PST for the traditional Facebook live for family and friends, near and far. Join us.
I need to turn the spotlight on Lillian Darnell for a moment, as I am super proud of her.
She had a nurse appointment for a shot on Thursday. The nurse asked Lillian if she would get onto the exam table. Lillian began to tell her that she needed the step pulled out. Nurse didn’t wait for Lillian to get out what she needed to say, assumed she didn’t want to get up there, saying, “Oh, you don’t want to get up there? That’s fine.”
Lillian raised her irritated voice, telling the nurse that’s not what she said, and pointed at the pull out step, saying again that she needed it to get up there.
I kept my mouth shut, letting her set fire to the air in that exam room. You go Lillian. You go! Be seen, be heard. (Also, we LOVE nurses. They are amazing!)
**For those who don’t know, Lillian is my 22-year-old daughter. She has a chromosome deletion (18p-), autism, anxiety, and mild intellectual disability. She has articulation difficulties and a stutter, making her difficult to understand. The past few years I have been guiding her to correct others when they misunderstand her.**
There’s no stopping her now! Abdominal ultrasound slayed. Labs from two weeks ago are fine. GI next week, with more labs, and another (different) ultrasound to follow. We are gonna figure out what’s going on so Lillian can fully enjoy this life! I’m just so thrilled Lillian is ready to do this! ❤️🎉❤️
She did it!!! After about 6 years, she finally had labs done! You on fire, gurl!
I found a place that does mobile draws, explained that Lillian has a needle phobia, a pediatric size body, hard to find veins, and a traumatic lab draw 6 years ago. They said they had the perfect person. And they do! Patrick Go is absolutely amazing, and he did a wonderful job! So relieved to have this done. There’ll be more after the GI visit in December. But at least we’ve begun!! Stomach ultrasound next week. 🎉🎉🎉
WooHoo Y’all! The RN&R article about Turning Views Foundation and Different iz Good came out today! Kat did a great job of condensing the ton of information I spilled out to her!
Lillian Darnell holds the iPhone that, though speech impaired, allows her to talk through a special app. Her mom, Camilla Downs, stands beside her.
PHOTO BY KAT KERLIN
Lillian Darnell was 3 years old in 2004 when her mother, Camilla Downs, received a phone call from her pediatrician.
“It was a phone call that landed me in a place I never thought I’d be,” says Downs.
Lillian had been born a month early, so Downs attributed the developmental delays she’d noticed to the fact that she was a preemie. But that day, she discovered Lillian had a chromosomal abnormality, so rare it didn’t really have a name: It’s just called 18p-, a deletion of the short arm of chromosome 18.
“The main way it manifests for her is communication,” says Downs. “Everything is in her mind, she just can’t articulate it.” Lillian is about 90 percent unintelligible.
Before this year, Lillian, now 9, had been carrying around a heavy, clunky “augmented communicator” called Dynavox. She actually had to pull it on a cart behind her at recess. Then Downs heard about Proloquo2Go, an iPhone app that could do the same thing, but on a smaller and, let’s face it, cooler device. She bought Lillian an iPhone and had the app installed. Lillian carries it in her purse, which has a speaker clipped to it to make her “voice” louder. There are programmable buttons on it for typical things she might say in class or to her friends, as well as a section for things she could say in emergencies. For other things she wants to say, she can type it into the keypad and press “speak.”
The whole thing cost less than $1,000. Compare that to the $5,000-$10,000 people pay for augmented communicators. However, health insurance and Medicaid will pay for those clunky, expensive devices, but not for iPhones, iPads or iPod Touches that could have apps like Proloquo2Go installed on them.
“There’s no reason these kids should have to wait to have a modern way to communicate,” says Downs.
The school district will provide an iPod Touch or an iPad to the speech impaired, but not an iPhone, which Downs wanted Lillian to have for emergencies. So she decided to start a nonprofit, Turning Views, which encompasses the Different Iz Good movement to help kids like Lillian. Key to that is “Lillian’s Voice,” the recycling program that takes used iPodTouches, iPhones and iPads and gives them to children who are speech impaired or nonverbal. She accepts “last generation” devices, meaning more recent models, as some older ones may not be able to have the app installed on it. Look for “Lillian’s Voice” drop-off boxes at New2U Computers and Mac-O-Rama. (See column note for details.) People can also donate money or gift cards from iTunes or Apple on the nonprofit’s website, www.differentizgood.org.
“People still haven’t caught on that these are more than just phone and music devices,” says Downs. “It’s not just the app itself, but the shift that has occurred in society. It’s a communication revolution, in a way, that includes the nonverbal and speech impaired in a way they never have been before.”
What does Lillian have to say about it? She punches some keys on her phone, looks up, nods her head and presses “speak”: “I like the iPhone.”